Happiness is Success

The Magic of Making Up

2011-03-16T04:42:00.000-07:00

Did you know that most relationships CAN be salvaged? You may find it difficult to believe that almost every break up for whatever reason…infidelity, plain old lost passion, loss of interest, a stolen heart and worse...even the worst situations you can imagine…like men serving prison sentences have salvaged their relationships. Yes, even Ex-cons have got back together with girlfriends and wives after being away for years!

There is hope...

Now I can almost see you shaking your head in disbelief…

And it's okay…let me ask?

Don't you know couples that have gotten back together? A girl that has taken a guy back?...or vice versa?

I bet you do…and here's the strange real clincher…

Do you remember why they broke up in the first place? I bet you know at least one guy or gal that took their lover back after an affair…or unfaithfulness…or worse even?

Think about it for a sec...

Sure! And I bet you know of…or have heard of at least one girl that has taken a guy back that REALLY should not have…you know the ones I am talking about…(and I know this is kind of dark)… the girls or guys that are in verbally or physically abusive relationships.

Now, that is some really dark stuff and I am not recommending to anyone to take someone back if the relationship was abusive…I am using it as a point that almost NO SITUATION is unsalvageable…

Well...I found this book that is really good so I thought to share it with you. You never know how it can help. Please share it with your friends and family as well.

Click on this link to find the website:
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Good luck and hope everything works out for you.

What effect do you have on people?

2010-02-27T05:22:00.000-08:00

I find it facinating how different we all are. As human beings we have different appearances and personalities. We all have different effects on people around us. What type of effect do you have on people? Do you think your presence,look or voice make people feel happy, sad, funny, serious, scared or annoyed?

As we are all aware that before we can influence others, it is crucial that we are in the right space ourselves. It is important that we are happy, strong, mature and content with our own life.

Content does not mean being complaisant. It means that we are mature enough to be able to interpret every situation we face constructively turning challenges into opportunities, hence happy to deal with situations fairly, maturely and constructively and then move on after fair solutions is reached.

Let's work on developing our own strengths and then help others to do the same.

All the best,
Coach Tenny CPC

Happy New Year 2010

2010-01-29T16:55:00.000-08:00

Time flies everyone, it's almost the end of the first month already this year.

What are your plans?

Well..., the first month has been extremely hectic for me. Work has been very busy and a little stressful with many changes and challenging situations. Home has been busy too but more pleasant busy with a few family gatherings in the holiday season.

I have also been very busy with my study and my life coaching business.

I am extremely thankful that I have been very healthy enabling me to keep moving forward enjoying life and achieving more things that are making even happier.

Being happy has a lot to do with your attitude. No matter how stressful things can be to deal with, it is very important to be able to re-frame our perspectives on an ongoing basis. Take our mind back toward the positive side and move forward within the positive path and stay there.

Writing this blog has helped me do that. It is very important to have a structure in your life that will support you to stay motivated and positive, as we often get influenced by a few negative life events around us including those that are not even part of our life.

Let's make this year as a special positive and motivational year and achieve good things in life.

Optimism vs. Skeptisism

2010-01-29T16:53:00.000-08:00

Topic 1: The power of optimism to take you to your destination.

The Lexicon Webster Dictionary has translated “optimism” as an inclination to emphasize the happy aspect of any happening or circumstance. Phil. The conviction that the world is good and is building towards the ultimate in excellence.

“Skepticism” is disbelief or inability to believe; doubt; incredulity; a doubting of the truth of religious beliefs as revelation, esp. the Christian religion.

Jimmy Dean said: “I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.”

According to my experience, observation and research, I agree with Jimmy Dean. We cannot control what happens around us but we can always change our perspectives on what we encounter and experience in order to have more peace and contentment in our life.

As human beings we have the ability to make choices. This is including making choices on how we want to feel and how we want to interpret what we see, what we hear and what we experience.

The two characteristics and attitudes I have noticed as being paramount and influential in our life are our optimism vs. skepticism. Whichever characteristic you choose to have, they both have capability to make a big difference in how we live, how we see life and how we deal with everything in our journey.

I have observed that optimists are more likely to be happier group of people and succeed in achieving their goals while skeptics are more likely to stay still, be more resentful, be judgmental, often feel miserable and live with a lot of regrets in the end.

Optimists believe that no matter what happens around them, they can always see the positive side of any situation. They are capable of turning bad situations into the positive side. They are hopeful and have high level of appreciation of what they have or receive.

Optimists see the half filled glass as half full (good) while skeptics see it as half empty (bad). Optimists think that things are more likely to do well than bad while skeptics think the opposite.

Optimism can generate creativity, peace, contentment, happiness, satisfaction, motivation, positive energy, results and the ability to move forward and to succeed no matter how challenging things can be along the way.

Because optimists are hopeful and eager, they are not usually affected negatively by the challenges they encounter along the way. They can in fact turn challenges into opportunities. They deal with all situations gracefully and move forward towards the next step of the process.

While I believe with all of the positive notations about optimism, I have unfortunately experienced a fraction of the downside if you were over-optimistic without calculated expectations. Being over-optimistic without being prepared with the potential hurdles or blockages during the journey can be disadvantaging to some degree. For example: investing all the money you have in a high risk portfolio without doing any research or seeking professional advice before hand can result in a big loss in the end, which can be very disappointing. However though, optimists, over or not, are more likely to succeed in the end, as they do not usually give up until they get the results that they want because they do not believe in giving up and they do not believe that they can actually fail.

I know a few people around me who are skeptical, unlike me. Whenever I tell them about something I intend or plan to do, they always want to know details and always manage to tell me the negative side of the potential outcome. They rarely see the potential success but they never fail to see the potential failure in anything. It is kind of tiring to be around with because they tend to drag you back or down a lot. They act as the blockages for me. Therefore, I have had to avoid being around them too much, so I can move forward. Sometimes I don’t even tell them my plan to avoid them trying to talk me out of it as this is the best way for me to stay motivated.

Failure is not an option for optimists. They usually see failures as temporary set-backs. They see mistakes as lessons and they learn from their mistakes quickly. Even the over optimists who take high risks, they are still likely to win and succeed in the end. It may just take them a little longer to get to their destination and they may experience more or bigger set-backs during their journey, although this usually makes them become much stronger people.

Let’s talk about skepticism now. Skepticism acts like a stone blocking a passage. Skeptics usually procrastinate a lot and do not move forward easily. They see the negative sides of every situation and they have fear in taking action. They usually fear to fail and fear to move forward, just in case things do not work out and they believe that something, somewhere will go wrong.

Skepticism is highly disadvantaging to human growth in life. In fact, I am confident to say that it can be dangerous to others around them, particularly to the optimists. This is because skeptics or skepticism can drive the optimists crazy. Skeptics are frustrating and stressful for optimists, because they tend to drag you down with negativity and blame.

Skeptics do not do a lot in their life as they always worry of failing. They are capable of finding any reason or excuse to not do something. They usually like to blame others or things to give themselves permission of not doing something, not making positive statement about something or not moving forward at all.

On the opposite note about skepticism, I can even say that some people deliberately choose to be skeptical in order to stay in their comfort zone and not having to do anything different or challenging at all. It is not so bad if they stay within their own zone. However, it is unfortunate that a lot of them are usually strong willed and strong minded people to influence others becoming like them, because they are not usually open minded or able to see other people’s view point.

Skeptics do not like to set goals, as they have no intension to move forward and they cannot see the point of putting any effort into things as all they can see is wasting time and not achieving anything. They do not believe in good things to happen to them and often under-estimate their own ability.

As coaches it is important to be able to identify if your client is an optimist or a skeptic. This is not difficult to do. We should be able to sense from their speeches. Optimists will almost always say that they can do and achieve what they want in life. They may say things like: I can achieve anything I want. Skeptics may say things like: yes, it’s all good to want something but there are too many people already doing it, or the study takes too long, the Government has too many rules, etc. There is usually always an excuse or two and they often blame.

Skeptics almost always have doubt or fear in their mind. They often cannot see themselves succeed. They have every excuse under the sun why they cannot do or achieve anything. They usually spend their time complaining, blaming and feeling sorry for themselves.

What they do not realize is how much time and energy they spend on staying still or not moving forward and by the time they turn a certain age, they will still be complaining saying things like: if only I had …. I would have …., I could have …., I wish I did …., so on and on they go. In the end, they spend a lot of time feeling negative, feeling sorry for themselves and never achieved anything significant in their life. They will blame other people or other things why they did not achieve what they wished they achieved.

It is quite fascinating what effect skepticism can do to people’s lives particularly if the degree of it is high and especially if they are around people who are optimistic. Skepticism or pessimism can actually become damaging to themselves and to others if it goes on long enough.

Despite the above findings, I think that if we were over optimistic we could take too high of a risk in our action and if we are not strong enough to handle the failure, we may become depressed due to the effect of the fall.

On the other hand, a high degree of skepticism may cause the same effect of living full of regrets as they never moved forward enough in their lives.

As coaches, we have accountability to enthuse skeptics and pessimists. We need to motivate them to become more optimistic and positive, so they can keep moving forward to achieve their goals. During coaching sessions we should be able to identify if our clients are ready for long term coaching. We may identify signs that our clients are not ready to move forward. If they keep talking about the past problems and not willing to move forward, they may require therapy first before they can continue with their coaching sessions.

Therefore, as a conclusion, I think that it is better to be optimistic with ability to make calculated decisions before we take action on whatever it is that we decide to take action on.

In order to be able to make calculated decision, we need to be skilled, knowledgeable and experienced. We therefore need to invest in studying, learning, researching and networking to become the type of person who is confident and optimistic. Hence succeed.

Discussion:

Describe the times when you were optimistic and when you were skeptical.

Provide reasons that encouraged you to be optimistic or skeptical during those times in your examples above.

What results did you get from being optimistic and from being skeptical?

Which gave you the better result and which one would you prefer to be, optimistic or skeptical?

What did you do to remain optimistic?

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2009-10-15T05:59:00.000-07:00

The Most Empowering Experience

2009-10-13T06:15:00.000-07:00

Hi,

I have recently realized how empowering having a life coach and coaching others can be.

For years, I carried small self-doubt and concern of things that are out of my control. Having a life coach and the skills and knowledge to coach others have been the best tools for me to remove the blockages that used to bother me from moving forward faster and/or experiencing my journey more peacefully and pleasantly.

Life Coaches are skilled professionals to assist and support you in uncovering and discovering our values and our blockages as well as forming and re-framing new perspectives and structures that will serve us better to achieve more content and abundant lives.

I personally feel ever so blessed to have grown to be the type of person that I am today with acknowledgment that I will always have many things to learn about on an ongoing basis in order to continue growing and moving forward.

Whenever I feel down, I just go through a few of my positive affirmations that will make me feel better, brighter and more confident in what I do. I also ensure that I apply my skills and knowledge to help others.

If you ever feel down for some reason, think of the more positive and pleasant experiences that you have crossed in your life so far. Celebrate on your accomplishments, learn from your mistakes and move forward towards better things. You'll soon feel better about yourself and life around you.

Once my friend said to me "learn to love others unconditionally".

Take Care,
Tenny

The DREAM Coaching Model

2009-10-09T18:24:00.000-07:00

The DREAM Coaching Model

By: Tenny Charlesworth

I Can Do Life Coaching

The name I Can Do Life Coaching is inspired by my philosophy and belief that every human being is gifted with certain potential, talent and strength to achieve their DREAM in peace if they learn how, willing to take action, remain patient and work towards it persistently.

I believe that we naturally have the power to make our own decisions and choices that serve us well in life. We just need support in bringing out that power.

I Can Do Life Coaching is passionate to support, guide and empower YOU in bringing out your power and utilize it to discover your potential, talent and strength to turn your DREAMS into reality.

Following the name of I Can Do Life Coaching, the DREAM Coaching Model was designed to support YOU in our coaching process.

Our coaching process include:

Identifying your DREAM, your current perspective and structure on your current situation. At this stage of the process you will be motivated and supported to identify and set your specific goals, short and long term realistic goals.

Re-framing and REFORMING towards preferred perspectives and structures that will serve you better to remove any blockages that get in your way from moving forward. At this stage of the process you will be motivated, assisted and supported to set an action plan and time line of each step of the process.

Uncovering your strength, passion and accomplishments that will EMPOWER yourself ensuring that you maintain your motivation and resilience to keep looking ahead and moving forward.

Utilizing your courage and motivation to be able to actually take ACTION on each step of your plan, one by one with adequate breaks and nourishment in between ensuring that you enjoy your journey.

Maintain your motivation, strength and enjoyment to keep MOVING-FORWARD towards YOUR ULTIMATE DREAM.

That was how my Coaching Model born:

D r e a m

R e f o r m

E m p o w e r

A c t i o n

M o v e – F o r w a r d

With the above coaching model, my DREAM is to help YOU achieve your goals and becoming exceptional people in your own rights, turning your DREAMS into reality.

The power is within YOU and it is up to YOU to make YOUR choice and decision to utilize your own power orderly and wisely towards achieving your DREAMS.

If you wish to know more about life coaching and wish to experience coaching under the DREAM Coaching Model, please refer to www.icandolifecoaching.com

Coach Tenny Charlesworth

Brilliant Weekend

2009-10-09T18:12:00.000-07:00

Hi All,

It's Saturday morning where I am right now and the weather is brilliant. It's a calm sunny 26*C day today and my spirit is lifted even more.

I woke up with morning feeling energised and motivated to do things. As I work full time during the week, like most people of course I have to catch up with my house work on the weekend. So far, I've had breakfast with family while talking about our week. We've done some washing, cleaning and a bit of gardening. We are now having our coffee break and getting ready to have our outing. We can't wait to get out there, having a walk and eating out for lunch.

So life is great for us, I can't complain at all. Despite our life being great for us though, I've prayed and donated for those who have been affected by the sad news of earth quakes and other natural or man made disasters. I feel for those innocent people who have been affected, so I pray a lot for them hoping that the pain they go through is barable, so they can bring themselves back up to becoming healthy and having the ability to start building their life all over again.

Let's take a moment to pray for those people and be grateful for what we have.

Take Care,
Coach Tenny

Coping With Change

2009-10-09T18:07:00.000-07:00

Coping with Change

Coping with Change is probably one of the most important capability we need to have in today’s life.

Changes are often inevitable, out of our control and no doubt influence our lives in a big way. So, if we are not ready and prepared to receive and manage those changes coming our way, we will find life pretty stressful and difficult to deal with. This is because, today, changes do come very rapidly from different sources and directions.

They say that the most definite thing that we have in our life is change. There is no doubt, everyday, we will hear, read or find new things appearing in front of us and we need to make choices on what we are going to do with those changes.

I have a few options to help you cope with change:

First of all, ask yourself these questions:

Is the change within your control?

Does the change directly affect you?

Is it necessary for you to respond to, react to or take action of?

Is it necessary for you to take on board the awareness and the knowledge of the change?

If you say “No” to all of those questions, I suggest, ignore that change and let go. You just continue focusing on your own agenda, having your own race to achieve your own goals happily and peacefully. Do not allow that change to affect your life in anyway what so ever.

If you say “Yes” to question 1, then obviously the change is your choice, so you should be in control all the way and enjoy the process.

If you say “Yes” to question 2 but it’s not within your control to do anything about it, explore for different perspectives and find the advantaging factor for YOU and embrace the change.

If you say “Yes” to question 3, explore and find positive perspectives and constructive responses and then respond to it professionally as necessary, go with the flow and enjoy the journey. Do anything you can, not to stress about changes that are not within your control.

If you say “Yes” to question 4, just take note in either your mind or physically write it down, and then move on with your own agenda as stated above. Preferably, write it down and then put it aside, so it does not become a distraction while you focus on your journey to achieve the most important goal for YOU.

I am confident that you can practice with this first option, you will be able to cope with change easily.

That’s my first article on this blog about “Coping with Change” and I will come back another day to write more about it.

If you need support and assistance to “cope with change” successfully and to have a well balanced life style, you may want to try life coaching. Here is the link to find out more about life coaching.

Bye for now,

Coach Tenny Charlesworth

Contact Details:

e > tenny@icandolifecoaching.com

w > www.icandolifecoaching.com

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It's Sunday night and work tomorrow.

2009-09-27T05:25:00.000-07:00

Hi All,

First of all I wish to apologize for being a bit slack in posting new articles. I have been very busy with my study and writing articles for my coaching career path.

If you like, you can visit my website www.icandolifecoaching.com.

Here is a small article about life coaching that you can have a sneak peak on.

Have you had a life coach before? Do you know much about life coaching? To find out more, please read on and then refer to my “About Us” page to find out more about our background, particularly myself as your possible future coach.

Coaching is neither mentoring, counseling nor consulting. Coaching is about non judgmental partnership to support functional people becoming exceptional.

Coaches are trained, mature and resilient professionals who work with you as your sounding board and your partner who support, empower, listen and assist you to uncover your values and potentials, identify your specific goals and walking you through your journey to grow and succeed.

Coaching is all about YOU. You are the one who knows exactly what your values are and exactly what you want. Life Coaches will work with you as your partner to help you uncover your dreams, help you put your thoughts and ideas in the right perspective and the right structure, and then going through the processes to achieve your goals, turning your wishes into something real and true that you can touch, feel and taste. They are your goals and your values for YOU to achieve.

We all know that everyone of us has potentials to be whatever we want to be and to do whatever we want to do. It’s just that we don’t always know where to start and what to do with our potentials. Most of us get lost in the tapestry of life full of surprises, events and incidents.

Life can be overwhelming sometimes. In order to be organized and to achieve our specific goals successfully, we need to put our thoughts in the right perspective and be able to re-frame our perspectives regularly. I can help you do this, so you can enjoy your life journey and achieve your dreams orderly, successfully and peacefully.

I Can Do Life Coaching will work with you to uncover the unpolished diamond shining inside YOU and start polishing it and cutting it into a bright piece of diamond with brilliant cut and high clarity.

Enjoy your week,
Coach Tenny :)

My Celebrations - Life Coaching

2009-08-29T04:08:00.000-07:00

To My Loyal Readers,

Hi All,

I have loved being a member of the ICA (International Coaching Academy) and I am learning so... much about the benefit of life coaching, having a coach myself and coaching others to help them achieve their goals.

Life Coaching has made a huge shift in my life as well as providing a service to help others making changes in their lives.

My clients are my family members, my friends, my colleagues, acquaintances and then anyone in the public who can see the huge benefits they can get from having a life coach.

The real celebration for me is seeing others achieving more in their lives and feeling more satisfied as a result of having a life coach.

I love this job, as it gives me satisfaction seeing my clients happier and more satisfied in their lives.

There is no better gift than giving others their satisfaction.

Love always,
Coach Tenny

How important is setting goals?

2009-08-05T05:38:00.000-07:00

Some of us like setting goals, make it as a habit and they achieve a lot in their lives.

Some just simply don't like the idea of setting goals or planning as it seems rigid or structured to them and they don't like anything that comes across as a pressure.

What do you think?

I believe setting goals is a good thing. You don't have to call it as setting goals, you can just think about it as following a journey towards what's important and valuable to YOU.

At the end of the day we have to enjoy our journey and by achieving goals we certainly enjoy our life journey more. That's what it's all about.

xx

UAC

2009-08-04T04:40:00.000-07:00

Do you know what a UAC is? It's an "Underlying Automatic Commitment". What really is it?
It is something that gets in the way of you moving forward. However, instead of looking at it as a negative thing, it is actually a door way towards change.

Most of us don't realise about our full potential in life. We usually have goals that we really want to achieve, however, we are not progressing towards achieving that goal because we are allowing other things getting in the way. Those other things are the "Underlying Automatic Commitments".

Our challenge is getting over those UAC and move forward towards our goals. How do we do that?

First of all, discover what you really want in life and what's really stopping you getting it.
What's your perspective on your current situation and how can you find a different perspective?
What are your options to get over the things that stop you moving forward? Work on those options and really get over those UAC and then make a new start with a clean slate.

Of course it is always easy said than done.

If required, find a good Life Coach that can help you go through this process as a starting point to your journey of success.

Regards,
Tenny

My Life Coaching Experience & Services

2009-08-03T06:58:00.000-07:00

I am so... sorry for not posting any story since 3 July, I have been very busy with my study which I am really enjoying.

As part of my new study I also had to create a new blog specifically to post my articles related to my study.

I am studying with ICA to become a Life Coach and it has been so... exciting so far.

I always knew that Life Coaching was something that I wanted to do but never realised how much more exciting it actually is.

I have now spoken to so... many people around the world in my online coaching classes and that makes me feel privileged to be able to share other people's experiences in coaching globally. It is interesting to know that we all have commonality in human behaviours, human needs and our perspectives on things.

If you need a Life Coach or knowing anyone who need a Life Coach, please don't hesitate to contact me at "icandolife@gmail.com"

Kindest Regards,
Tenny

Touching the Void

2009-07-02T08:03:00.000-07:00

If you don't know what I am talking about, why don't you start googling about it.

Wow...! That was the most inspirational documentary I've ever seen. I've watched it a while ago and just recently watched it again. It is unbelievable and certainly a miracle story..!

That Joe shows us real spirit about life and what you can do to try staying alive even in the situation that looked impossible to all of us including to himself I am sure.

After watching that, I feel really weak knowing that I don't even go outside when/if it is too cold or too hot outside. We often complain about little things crossing our path or getting in our way. I feel so... pathetic and embarrassed to be blessed and spoilt while at the same time feeling lucky to have had a fortunate life style, not having to struggle to survive.

No matter how your life is right now, why don't you watch this documentary. I am sure you will be stunned by the story.

Enjoy..!

My latest trip to Perth

2009-06-27T04:40:00.000-07:00

I just returned from Perth and it was a great trip. I love Perth. It's such a lovely city.

I used to visit Perth regularly between 2002 and 2005 when my daughter studied there, so it was nice to be able to go again even though it was only a day trip and partly for work.

I went with my friend and stayed at the Medina Apartments on Barrack St. It was very nice and convenient, very close to everything particularly the shopping malls, cafes and train station, although we didn't need to train cos my kind friend Kuri drove us around, that was very nice of her. She drove us around the city, the South Pk and Fremantle.

We had a very nice sunny weather on our first day but raining on the second day and between mild sun shine and light drizzle on the third day. No matter how the weather is though, we still had a great time. Although weather is an external influence that usually affects our moods, I believe that happiness is within, not up to the weather, so tell yourself that you will remain happy and healthy, not matter what the weather is like.

Enjoy the rest of the weekend.

How to get around in Japan

2009-06-07T06:49:00.000-07:00

I did a lot of research and planning and made all my decisions prior to our departure.

When I was in Japan for 16 days in May 2009 with my family, we used public transport to get around and everything worked very well for us. Thanks to the Japanese people and their Government for being so... organised and systematic with everything that they have in place and do. Amazing...!

I heard that taxi rides are very expensive in Japan but I wouldn't know how expensive is very expensive, as I didn't get to use it. I only found out during my research before I went to Japan that a taxi charge from Narita Airport to Shinjuku Tokyo would cost around 170,000 yen (around USD170), that is expensive for a 70km taxi ride comparing to 3000 yen per person by a limousine bus.

Although there were 3 of us and it would take longer by the limousine bus, we decided to take the bus, as it still worked out cheaper, very easy to organise, the bus would have been comfortable and was going to take us directly to our hotel that I booked in Shinjuku, Tokyo, as it was one of the major hotels in Shinjuku area called Keio Plaza Hotel, which was a very nice hotel.........

The hotel was only 10 minutes walk from the Shinjuku Train Station, which would be handy for us in the first 3 days of our stay in Japan.

As soon as we arrived at Narita Airport, we could feel that everything in Japan is very organised and systematic. The signs are in both Japanese and English at the Airport, so it was easy to work out where to go.

Because there were a lot of passengers arriving at Narita International Airport, we decided to just follow other passengers to begin with, as we figured out that everyone would have to go through custom.

As we got to the main area of the Airport, there was a shuttle train stopping and everyone jumped on that train. We weren't sure if that was the train for us as well but we jumped on it anyway, as everyone seemed to do the same. We figured out that all trains go to the same direction to the custom area.

When we got to the other end, we just followed the direction to the luggage collection area and our luggage were there ready for collection. We then went through custom which was very efficient. They used electronic passenger identification system by taking our finger prints through this little machine by getting us to place our right and left pointing fingers in these little slots on the machine and then took a picture of our face as well. They worked very efficiently and got people through very quickly. The officer who directed people through each cubicle was very efficient as well, no time wasted at all. Unbelievable..! I really admire the way they work. No matter what they do, they seem to take so much price in what they do.

We used JR train and subway to get around Tokyo and they were fast, cheap, clean and punctual. Incredible..! The stations and the trains were very busy, especially during peak hours but it didn't feel crowded or threatening in anyway what so ever. People were very quiet, considerate and respectful of others, everyone moved at the same pace or speed, they move out of the way when necessary and no body bumped into each other. Sweet..!

We went to Harajuku the next day by JR train and it only cost us 130 yen each each way, as it's only 2 stations away from Shinjuku Station. We didn't know what to expect in Harajuku but it was the busiest day I've ever seen. It turned out that so... many young people from different parts of Tokyo go there on Sundays to do their shopping for fashion. That Sunday was particularly busy as supposedely the following Monday and Tuesday were Public Holidays for them. I've never seen so.. many people in one area at the same time. The weather was beautiful and there were so.. much going on. Most people would probably feel overwhelmed with the situation but we enjoyed it, as it was different and we don't mind hectic moments.

On our third day, we went to Shibuya to find this particular Custom Made Bass Guitar Shop for our daughter. Shibuya is the next station from Harajuku and it cost us 150 yen per person per trip by JR train. We had fun and found the area different again.

On our forth day, we traveled to Kyoto by bullet train which we booked online prior to our departure from Australia. We stayed Kyoto for 3 days and used subway or walked to get around. Kyoto was beautiful and we loved the Nijojo Castle best.

We then went to Hiroshima by bullet train and stayed for 1 night and 2 days and then returned to Tokyo, also by bullet train, which only took 4 hours as the bullet train called Nozomi traveled at 300km per hour. The bullet train was awesome..! Better than traveling by aircraft. The total tour including the bullet train and hotels cost us 172,000.00 yen or around AUD2700.00 for 3 adults which I also booked online in Australia prior to our departure.

I already booked a hotel for the next 3 nights when we got back to Tokyo. We stayed at the Courtyard by Marriott Hotel at Ginza for 3 nights and Ginza is where the top designer fashion shops are. One of the main street is like 5th avenue of New York where the top designer label fashion shops like Louis Vuitton are. It was also a great stay for us.

We then went and stayed in Kanda and Akihabara area where the Musical Instrument Centre and Electrical Centre are. Busy area with lots of shops.

To top up our Japan holiday, we went to Maihama area for 2 nights and 3 days where the Disney Resort was and we stayed at the Sheraton Grande Tokyo which is one of the Tokyo Resort Official Hotels. It was beautiful and we spent a day in Disneyland before we left for the Airport the next day.

We used public transport for the whole time of our holiday in Japan and loved every minute of our journey.

Preparation For My Holiday In Japan

2009-06-07T04:42:00.000-07:00

I was lucky that my eldest daughter lived in Japan for a few months, so I could get some information through her a little to begin with.

To top it up, I really like doing my research before I make my decision to go ahead with anything I plan to do, so that I can make informed decisions.

The main thing I make sure of is having a special saving account for our annual family holiday, as I don't like to have fun by interrupting our everyday living expenses, investment and emergency saving accounts. I don't like to borrow money to pay for our holiday either. So, I usually start ordering and booking flight, accommodation and tours after I save more than enough money to pay for everything up front. That way we can enjoy our holiday much more without worrying about money.

The type of holiday and the places we can visit are endless, so I would be realistic and tailor our holiday according to what we can achieve each year. Often we manage to have up to two or three short local or domestic holidays with one main/longer holiday overseas. Our Japan holiday was not cheap but it was so... worth it.

As both my husband and I are working full time for different companies, the first thing we needed to do was negotiating and making our decisions to apply for our holidays at the same time, working around our daughter's University holiday. We decided to take our holidays in May 2009, which is a nice time of the year in Japan. It's spring time in Japan, unfortunately it was after the cherry blossom season. Our dates were confirmed in around Oct 2008.

Once I had the dates, I searched for the best value airline tickets and immediately booked them online to secure the holidays, that way we had no chance to procrastinate.

I then researched on certain places to visit in Japan, the way to get around, the type of accommodation to stay in and the type of organised tours to book. It took me between 4 to 6 weeks to research, compare and decide which ones to book. It wasn't easy but the key to the whole thing is to be able to be decisive and take action. Don't procrastinate, just do it, book the ones that you feel the best at that time and be satisfied with your final decisions.

I booked and paid for everything online. I did everything with confidence and believed in myself that everybody was trustworthy and everything I found and booked online was true and real.

I was right. From the time I arrived at Narita Airport, Tokyo, Japan, through out our 16 days holiday in different parts of Tokyo, Kyoto and Hiroshima, everything worked out very smoothly and exactly as planned and as I booked them. I was very happy about that and that's confirmed to me that people in Japan and those who owned those online businesses that I booked my tours and hotels from are trustworthy.

The way everything worked out, made our holiday so... awesome.

Japan Holiday

2009-05-25T05:22:00.000-07:00

I went to Japan with my husband and my 19 year old daughter and it was one of our best holidays so far. Every time we go away for a holiday, it's getting better each time. I believe that it has something to do with our own attitudes as well as everything else of course. I find that the more comfortable, confident and content we feel about ourselves and what we do, things usually workout so much better, smoother and more successfully.

We had a busy and fun holiday mainly in different parts of Tokyo such as Shinjuku, Harajuku, Shibuya, Ginza, Kanda, Akihabara and Maihama. We also spent 4 days in Kyoto, 2 days in Hiroshima and we had 1 day tour to Mt Fuji and Hakone.

There were so.. many people every where we went but it didn't feel crowded what so ever. Everything and everybody seemed to move at the same pace smoothly, calmly and structurally. They are fast, efficient and orderly. Everyone seemed to be on the same page, being respectful and considerate of others around them. They seem to take so much pride in whatever they do. I love that and I really respect them for being like that. I really admire disciplined people, as I totally believe that when everyone chips in to do the right thing, everything seems to work well. So I believe that people's attitudes make a huge difference towards success.

Because of those effective people and system as well as the neat, tidy and clean environment in Japan, our visit was so much more enjoyable. Everything worked exactly how we planned and expected it, which made us feel very happy, safe, secure, and relaxed. That's how holiday should be. It was worth every cent/yen we spent.

No one like hassles, so the Japanese well engineered and systematic way made our holiday hassle free.

The next time you holiday in Japan, I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

Best Wishes,
Tenny

Happy Holiday In Japan...........!

2009-05-21T06:41:00.000-07:00

Wow..! what a holiday..! I loved it, loved it and loved it..! It was a brilliant holiday..! We did and saw so... many different things during our 16 day stay in Japan.

So.. much to tell and show but I am still jet-lagged and have not had enough time to gather all my thoughts, experiences and information in an orderly manner yet, so I don't know where to start at this stage but I promise I will give you as much information as I can over time.

What impressed me most about Japan was the effectiveness of the people and their systems. Everywhere we went and every time we turned, we found everything working so... smoothly, orderly and efficiently. We did not come across anything delayed or faulty.

Everything and every place we came across were so... clean and tidy. The people were very quiet, polite and respectful. They were extremely dedicated and committed towards their jobs and whatever they do. They were very focused and calm at the same time.

I will tell you more soon, good night for now.

My Japan Holiday

2009-05-05T05:40:00.000-07:00

Just a brief note about my Japan holiday for now and I will write the full experience when I get home.

Today is our 4Th day in Japan and we are in Kyoto at the moment.

Tokyo was crazy... So... busy... but fun..! I have never seen so... many people at one time on a normal day. There were so... many young people shopping every where on Sunday, unbelievable..! That was just in Shinjuku, Harajuku and Shibuya. Not as many shoppers in Kyoto today but there were still streets, arcades and rows of shops every where and people were still shopping away, even in the rain. The good thing is we mostly walked under shelters including across the intersections.

Everything is so... well engineered and organised here in Japan and the people seem to work so... hard every where we go. They are so... fast, effective and accurate with what they do. They don't hesitate to give you the best service they possibly can and they are always so... appreciative of your purchase. If they don't know the answer to your question, they would go out of their way to get the answer for you. They are just incredible, I really admire their dedication towards their jobs and providing good service. They are also very polite and respectful.

The public transport system is incredibly effective, just amazing...! You don't find or see any failure, delay or mistake any where. To say that there are millions of traffic each day in the major train stations, all the ticketing machines and every other parts of the humongous system work correctly and accurately. Almost everything is automated and works so... fast. It's unbelievable..!

The ladies here are so... thin and fashionable. They still look thin even with layers of clothing with frills, scarves, big boots and big Louis Vuitton bags. They look absolutely fashionable. They are so... little and beautiful, like dolls.

I am loving my holiday and my daughter has bought a few things for herself. My husband has also been looking through these shops with us. Although most of them are only good for girls, I am sure he is enjoying the experience as well, as anything important to his daughters is important to him, especially when we were looking through musical instrument shops in Shibuya, Tokyo. We saw some beautiful custom made basses in Shibuya yesterday and we wish we could buy our daughter one. We'll find one before we leave Japan though.

Anyway, I am using limited free Internet access at the hotel, so I'd better go, in case other people want to use the it.

By for now and I will write in more details when I get back to Australia.

Dreaming Is The Beginning Of Your Success

2009-04-28T07:11:00.000-07:00

No matter what you read and who you speak to about how to succeed, they've all advised me that having a vision or a dream is always the starting point that we need to have in order to achieve our goals.

According to experts, our mind is extremely powerful and the way it works is by being told often enough about something until the idea is manifested subconsciously, which will then order all parts of your body to act towards the goals you want to achieve.

So... if we tell ourselves negative ideas or thoughts often enough, our brain will tell our body to generate negative energy to act towards those negative thoughts, hence negative results.

On the contrary, if we tell our brain what we want rather than what we don't want, i.e. good and positive things all the time, our brain will order our body to generate positive energy to act towards those beautiful things that you want.

My suggestion is, rather than sitting there and under minding this idea, why don't you try doing it, start doing it with little things and prove it yourself. The key to it is by believing in what you are thinking and saying. Start with a little or simple thing like wanting to get a car park at a certain spot, test it and see if you achieve it. If not, usually because you are not believing in what you are asking for.

Basically, get in a habit to think positively and to believe that only good things would happen to you, while at the same time, stay faithful about the reality of life, so when things don't turn out as you expect it, you know that it's nothing bad, it's just part of life. That way you will always be happy with whatever you get but you will also keep attracting good things in your life, so you won't even notice when things don't go quite the way you want it because nothing will bother you.

Accept the things you cannot change, have the courage to change the things you can and have the wisdom to tell the difference.

Most of all, embrace good things and show gratitude for this beautiful life.

Take care and smile....:)

Thought Of The Day - 4

2009-04-28T07:08:00.000-07:00

Character is what you really are; Reputation is what others think you are. Reputation is from others; Character is in you.
Anonymous.

Thought Of The Day - 3

2009-04-28T06:58:00.000-07:00

It's not the amount of time you devote, but what you devote to the time that counts.
Anonymous.

Thought Of The Day - 2

2009-04-27T08:23:00.000-07:00

If you can't say anything good, don't say anything at all.

Thought Of The Day - 1

2009-04-26T04:53:00.000-07:00

PREDICT another good day for yourself. Expect something great to happen.
Anonymous.

Being Grateful For Simple Things In Life

2009-04-20T05:45:00.000-07:00

Have you come across people who complain a lot, even if they were actually luckier than those people who are more disadvantaged with poverty, permanent illnesses, disabilities, natural disasters, wars, lack of natural resources and lack of development?

I feel sorry for those people. Can you imagine feeling miserable and frustrated just because the weather is a little warmer or cooler than how you wanted it to be? or just because you have to go to work every day to earn a living? or just because your computer is responding a little slower? or just because your dinner is a little cold or burnt?

Some people out there can't even get clean water to drink without boiling it or lucky enough to get one meal of a small bowl of rice porridge in a day. They don't have hot or cold water on tap, they don't have a job to go to knowing that they will get paid to pay for rent, bills and food.

So..... remember to be grateful for what you have, even the simple things in life such as the sun shine, water, clean air and life itself.

Be thankful and smile..:)

Great Minds Talk About Ideas

2009-04-18T06:21:00.000-07:00

I read a quote in a magazine saying "great minds talk about ideas, average minds talk about events and small minds talk about people." I smiled when I read this quote, as I have come across many people in my life time who love talking about people or events. Does that mean that they are more people around us with average and small minds? who knows? but we can do something to train our minds in becoming better or greater.

So, next time you have a chat with someone, think about what you talk about. If you find yourself gossiping about other people, bite your lips or your tongue and change the subject. Talking about events would be better and talking about plans and ideas is even better.

Talking about ideas is certainly much more useful then gossiping about people. Ideas help all of us gaining better results but gossiping causes a lot of harm.

Think before you talk and come up with some great ideas. Better again if you can share your great ideas with others.

Positive Minds

2009-04-18T02:22:00.000-07:00

I don't know about you? but I do find myself becoming more positive and content as I am growing older. The down side I am finding is feeling frustrated being around negative, pessimistic and miserable people, so my next goal is actually accepting or ignoring those who choose to be negative, pessimistic or miserable unless I can help them to become more positive, optimistic and happy.

I do find some people are so set in their ways to be extremely negative, pessimistic and miserable all the time, even when things are good, they tend to manage to find ways to turn things into the negative side. These people are almost hungry for bad news or negativity. They don't seem to believe that things can be good for them. They almost search for negative things to talk or think about. It's bizarre that they can be like that. I just don't understand at all.

I often feel sad for those people, the only trouble is, I don't think they feel sad at all, they actually seem to be happy being negative and happy to bring other people down with them. One says: "misery loves company."

I actually know people whom I avoid to see too often. This is simply because I am not prepared to feel miserable with them. The reason being, no matter how hard I try to help them becoming more positive, I usually struggle and we always end up having disagreement rather than positive outcome, this is because they stubbornly refuse to see or accept my positive view points, sad... hey..!

It's sad that negativity seems to spread more easily than positivity. Negativity is like a contagious disease and when it becomes a culture it's way too hard to break. This is why I love to talk, write and publish positivity, so I can stay positive and hopefully bring others into my positive world. I hope you agree with me and enjoy reading this blog.

So... how can we stay positive? Here are some tips:

There are always two sides to every story, the bright side and the dark side or the positive side and the negative side. Find the bright side and keep that thought in your mind for as long as you can. Get in a habit of seeing the bright side of everything and keep doing it, no matter what. Listen to your positive mind and ignore external negative influences.

Read, watch or talk about comedic (funny) things or events and enjoy it. Even when they are not supposed to be that funny, try to find the funny side of things and laugh or smile.

Make time to relax and spend quality time with family and friends or by yourself if that's preferred. You can spend time with family and friends over meals, coffee and cake, a glass of wine ("I mean a glass") or doing activities together such as walking, cycling, skating, swimming, playing team sports, cooking, gardening, anything that you can enjoy. Do this regularly, weekly or fortnightly.

Have fun with whatever you do, including work and chores. Think of them as just things to do, rather than chores or duties. Living human being do things, only dead people do nothing, so be thankful and grateful that you have the energy, the capacity and the capability to do things. Show gratitude and don't complain about doing things in life, you could have been ill, disabled or even dead.

Don't think too much about what you have to do, just do them.

Have faith in whatever you believe in and accept things you cannot change.

Dream...! and then keep making affirmation of your dream everyday. Imagine that you are already living your dream. Convince yourself that you will become what you want to be or achieve what you want to achieve. I don't mean dreaming yourself silly and not willing to take action on the work to take you to your destination. I mean dream consciously, repeatedly and frequently, so you will manifest your dream into your subconscious mind. You and your dream will automatically generate powerful or magnetic energy to attract each other until you turn your dream into reality. This will certainly keep you positive and make you happy, don't you think?

Stay positive, stay safe and enjoy life..!!!

Being Happy At Work

2009-04-14T05:19:00.000-07:00

Whether you work as employees, employers, business owners, investors or freelance artists, we still spend a lot of our time at work if not most of our time. So if we are not happy at work there is not much time left for happiness, right?

So what do we need to do to be happy at work?

Put a price tag on everything you do at work, just remember that you do get paid to do what you have to do at work and most importantly you want or need that money, so there is no point complaining, you get paid to do your work.
Always find the positive side of what you do. Most jobs involve doing something for other people. Instead of seeing it as a chore, think of it as helping others, whatever that makes you feel better. At the end of the day, you decided to work where you work, no one forced you to work where you work. You probably put a lot of effort to get that job, so respect your employers and your colleagues, do the right thing and put commitment in what you do at work.
If you cannot enjoy your job at all, don't just complain and drag everyone around you down, find out why and make a decision to take action to change jobs or leave, don't waste everyone's time, it's not cool and it's unfair on others.

Life is too short and your workplace is where you spend a third of your time. So, enjoy your job and be happy at work.

Respect others around you by being committed to what you do where ever you are.

Best Regards,
Tenny

Kidney Bean and Carrot Soup

2009-04-13T04:02:00.000-07:00

This is another popular West Javanese dish that my family likes.

Ingredients:

2 cans of kidney beans
2 large carrots - slice thinly
2 cloves of garlic - crush - this is optional
4 shallots (Asian Onions) - slice thinly - these days, they can be purchased at a normal Supermarket. If not found, they be purchased at an Asian Grocery Store
2 stalks of spring onions - cut at 1 inch length
1 large fresh tomato - chopped into small pieces
4 Dry Asian bay leaves - can be purchased at an Asian Grocery Store
2 pieces of dry or fresh galangal root (look like ginger but harder, larger and smell different) - can be purchased at an Asian Grocery Store
2 table spoons of shaved Asian palm sugar
2 tea spoons of sea salt
1 tea spoon of white or black pepper
1/2 tea spoon of pured tamarind - you can purchase this at a normal Supermarket. If not found, it can be purchased from an Asian Grocery Store but often sold in slabs rather then pured in jars
1.5 l of boiling water
1 table spoon of cooking oil

Method:

Saute sliced shallots and crushed garlic in oil until soft and sightly brown
Add sliced carrots, kidney beans and boiling water
Add chopped spring onions and tomatoes, then all the herb and spices listed above
Boil until all ingredients and spices blend into a tasty soup

* Serve with hot jasmine rice, crispy split anchovies, plain omelet, salt and pepper tofu and Tempe and Asian crackers*

Enjoy..!

Semur Daging (Beef in Soy)

2009-04-12T22:53:00.000-07:00

This dish is a favourite West Javanese dish that became popular in my Western mix family, as it is tasty but still mild (not spicy)

Ingredients:

1 kg bolar roast beef - cut in 3cm cubes
10 cocktail potatoes - wash
2 large carrots - peel and cut in 3cm length
1 large onion - chop in small cubes
3 cloves of garlic - crush
3 cm ginger root - peel and slice thinly
2 large fresh tomatoes or 1 can of sliced tomatoes - if fresh, chopped in small pieces
1/4 cup of sweet soy sauce (ABC kecap manis)
1 tea spoon ground black pepper or less if preferred
1/2 tea spoon of salt or less if preferred
A pinch of nutmeg
1 - 2 table spoon vegetable cooking oil

Method:

Saute sliced onion, crushed garlic and sliced ginger until soft and slightly brown in a large sauce pan
Add beef and stir until the outside is slightly brown
Add potatoes, chopped carrots, chopped tomatoes, soy, salt & pepper, nutmeg
Stir and bring to the boil
Turn heat down, put the lid on and simmer until everything is well cooked and soft

Serve with hot cooked jasmine rice, cucumber and Indonesian crackers or prawn crackers.

Enjoy...!

Easter Holiday

2009-04-11T22:24:00.000-07:00

Hi Everyone,

First of all, I wish to say "Happy Easter" and may God bless you all.

It's been one of the most beautiful Easter Holiday for my family. We are spending such beautiful quality time together without having to rush around much at all.

Today is the third day of the 4 day weekend and it has been one of the most peaceful break for me.

Walking to the beach near our home with my husband each morning has been the highlight of my holiday. The weather has been absolutely gorgeous, just the right temperature for me, reaching the maximum of 27*c. The sea water has been extremely calm and clear with just a few people fishing on the jetty, as most people would have gone away this weekend. Many would have probably gone up to the Flinders Ranges where my husband and I love to go as well, but we usually avoid going during the busy season like this weekend.

Spending quality time with our eldest daughter has been the best experience as well, as she has lived such a busy life all her life normally. Our younger daughter is still very busy with her music study and activities in another state at the moment.

Oh... I am just feeling so... happy about my life right now and have been most of my life. Despite many negative external influences, I am still feeling good about my life. Instead of allowing negativities letting me down, I prefer to use my energy to do constructive activities such as helping those in needs.

Anyway, I have to chat to my daughter on the skype now.

Will write to you again later.

Childhood Dreams

2009-04-10T09:02:00.000-07:00

Famous Quotes:
Victor Hugo: "There is nothing like a dream to create the future."

Do you remember those days when your dad, your mum or your teacher asked you what you wanted to be when you grew up? or when you said it to yourself what you wanted to be?

Growing up with 10 siblings and having parents who were so... proud of their children, I grew up with my dad asking us frequently what we wanted to be when we grew up.

The funny thing is, in my case, I can't remember what I used to say I wanted to be exactly. I think I used to just come up with anything fancy like becoming a doctor or a lawyer or something just to please my dad. My dad used to help me out in making my decision about what I should be or what I wanted to be. He used to say that I would be a good lawyer, ha...ha..., although I was clear in saying that I didn't want to be a teacher, as I used to get very frustrated teaching or helping my younger siblings doing their homework.

I was the most impatient person around when it comes to teaching. The funny thing was though, I got a scholarship after high school to study to become a teacher at the University of Education where people study to become teachers. I didn't take the offer of course, as I didn't even apply for it, my teacher who was very proud of me applied for it on my behalf and he did it as a surprise for me, not knowing that teaching was the last thing I wanted to do.

About my childhood dream, I am sure I used to just say to my dad that I just wanted to become somebody useful and helpful or a wholesome person. That probably explains it, because all my life I've loved learning about everything and I've loved just putting so much effort in being productive and being self sufficient while helping others whenever I can. I think and plan ahead about what to do next all the time.

I used to be one of these kids who was very serious and studied a lot. I used to do so much school work, music practice and doing extra curricular everyday, even my mum used to try to stop me studying too much, as she thought that it was unhealthy for me to study as much as I did without playing enough like other kids. What she didn't realise was that studying and doing things or making things were my enjoyment rather than chores.

I am one of those people called "jack of all trades, master of none." Instead of being a master or a doctorate of a particular subject matter, I've obtained about a dozen different Certificates and Diplomas in different subjects such as Secretarial, Foreign Language, Computing, Accounting, Marketing, Training and Workplace Assessment, Counseling, Government (Compliance and Fraud Investigation), Government (Management) and Coaching. I have also attended many independent seminars and read best sellers books related to business practice and personal development.

After learning and working most of my life time so far, a few years ago, I've only just discovered and confirmed exactly what I wanted to be, which is consistent with what I used to say to my dad and with what I've been learning and experiencing through out my life.

My study and my jobs have always been related to helping people and working with people. I've also received many feedback from others that my forte is motivating and coaching people. Without knowing exactly or specifically what I wanted to be then as a child, I must have known exactly what I wanted to be, as everything I have studied and done are the subject matters that were evolving to who I am today. This is the reason why I love my current job as a Team Manager to a group of people who provide service to the public. I also love writing articles that are positive and beneficial to the readers. Thanks to "Google" for providing me with a magnificent tool to share my positive thoughts with you. I hope you enjoy reading them too.

So... enough about my story, how about you? Do you remember those days as a kid when you were asked or when you thought it yourself what you wanted to be when you grew up?

Do you remember what you said or thought you wanted to be?
Did you have anything specific what you wanted to be?
Have you thought about that childhood dream regularly?
Have you been doing the things to take you to that childhood dream?
Have your parents or other adults around you helped or supported you in achieving your dream?
Have you broken down your goals into smaller ones?
Have you achieved any of your smaller goals or are you on the path to get there?
How close are you to achieving that childhood dream?
Do you think it is achievable?
What are the barriers that stop you getting there?
What options do you have to get you there?
What assistance do you need to get you there?
How can you identify your potential?
How can you take action?

I hope you got your answers to all of those questions above. I hope this article helps you to think and to identify your childhood dream and I hope this motivates you to start planning more structurally and to take action.

If you need assistance you can comment on this blog and I will contact you.

Keep dreaming and create your own future..!

Best Wishes,
Tenny

Family Favourite Winter Dish - Chicken and Vegetables Soup

2009-04-10T07:32:00.000-07:00

Hi All,

Summer is almost over in Australia and Autumn is coming. We are starting to have cool nights and healthy hot soup is always popular in our family.

As my children were growing up, they used to love my home made chicken and vegetable soup and they still love it now. My husband loves it too. So here is the recipe. Enjoy..!

Ingredients:

1 - 2 large chicken breast
1 large brown onion
2 cloves of garlic
2 medium potatoes
2 medium carrots
1 large stick of celery
2 medium florets of cauliflower
1 cup of chopped green beans
1 can of creamed sweet corn
1 can of 3 or 5 mix beans
1 fresh tomato
1/2 cup of chopped spring onions
Salt and pepper to taste
vegetable or chicken stock
2 l of boiling water

Method:

Chop chicken breast and vegetables into 1 cm cubes and crush garlic.
Saute chopped brown onions and crush garlic, sprinkle with a pinch of salt and pepper, stir until soft.
Add chopped chicken breast and cook until brown.
Add chopped vegetables and cook in about 2 cups of boiling water until slightly soft.
Add canned beans, sweet corn, chopped tomato, chicken stock and more salt and pepper to taste, cook until all vegetables are well cooked.
Add chopped spring onions, put the lid on.
Serve with croutons or toast.

If you wish, you can use broccoli, sweet potatoes or any other vegetables you like.

Try to make this soup this autumn and winter and see if your family likes it.
Enjoy..!

What a magnificent picture..!!!

2009-04-09T23:10:00.000-07:00

Happiness is within YOU..! You'll find it..!

2009-04-09T22:27:00.000-07:00

The word "happy" is used by most people or almost everyone. We all like the word "happy" and we all want to be happy.

The feeling of happiness is relative and everyone has different perception, ideas, measures or reasons what make them happy.

I've met a lot of people who owns an enormous amount of material possession but don't seem to be satisfied, content, calm, peaceful or happy, while on the other hand, there are people who owns next to nothing other than their basic necessities such as a little bamboo hut, a few clothes and being able to eat each day, yet they seem to be happier. So material possession doesn't always make people happier.

Is it because some people don't know any better and never owned much than their basic needs, so they appreciate the basic things? OR is it because they are actually more educated and more grateful for what they possess? What do you think?

I think TRUE HAPPINESS comes from the possession of inner maturity, acceptance and gratitude.

These three things cannot be achieved lightly. One would need to be highly mature and educated in one way or another to possess these behavioural values. They may not necessarily have to be academically educated with universal formal qualifications such as a master or doctorate of a particular subject, however, they would most likely have to be focused and keen to educate themselves in becoming a better person in carrying out their day to day life activities.

I feel that having high interest and taking action in self development would be one of those education that allows people to grow, becoming more mature, accepting and grateful.

Many people develop themselves through formal education, religious activities, cultural activities, or simply learning from their day to day basic activities. The most important thing is learning from what we do, see, hear and encounter, particularly from our mistakes.

People who have fear of making mistakes don't usually do much in their lives and they don't learn much either. They often become the narrow minded types who judge or blame others a lot rather than utilising their energy to learn from others, do positive things and become a better person each day.

So... enjoy life, smile, be proactive to do positive things, learn from others and simply explore everything all the time. Most of all enjoy what you do and stay safe.

While it is always wise and important to think and calculate before you act, get motivated to educate yourselves to become the expert of something and to become a better person, try new and different things, take a bit of risk but be prepared to accept the consequences and don't hesitate to live your life to your full potential.

We only live once and life is not a dress rehearsal, while it is important to be mindful, careful and calculated, do what you love doing and don't forget to smile.............!!!

Famous Quotes:
Robert F Kennedy: "Only those who dare to fail miserably can achieve greatly."
Publilius Syrus: "No man knows what he can do till he tries."

Take Care,
xx

Public Holiday is a Relaxing Day for me......

2009-04-09T21:36:00.000-07:00

I normally work five days a week, so the first thing I normally do each morning is getting ready for work and when I get to work, I work and work and work, which what I like doing.

I've been working in an office environment for about 30 years with a couple of years break when I had my first daughter who is now 24 years old.

I had a choice to be a stay at home mum when we started a family 25 years ago but I couldn't cope with a thought of not having a job or something that fully belongs to me, giving me assurance and confidence about myself. Doing what I love doing and what I am good at is like my identity for me. That's why I've always been working, and the extra money has certainly given my family a much better life style and education, so having full time and permanent job has been the best thing for me.

Despite the fact that I love working and I am so... used to working, I really cherish public holidays and today is one of those public holidays that I really enjoy because it's an Easter Holiday when most people around are happy and peaceful.

When I woke up this morning, the first thing I noticed was the calm and bright day. It was so... quiet and peaceful, so I asked my husband if he would like to go for a walk on the beach which is five minutes walk from our home.

Oh..... you wouldn't believe... how beautiful it was by the sea..! The water was so... calm and blue. It was low tied and the water was so... clear, you could see everything in the shallow sea water. We could see the star fish on the reef and there were a lot of fish in the water this morning.

Another good thing about today was, when we got home from our beautiful walk, my daughter made us the best cooked breakfast. We had croisant, egg, tomato, mushroom and baked beans. It was the best cooked breakfast I've even had because my own daughter made it for me and she cooked and served it with love and flair. What more would a mother want?

The calmness was so... shooting and relaxing, just unbelievably blessing..!

So... during this holiday, if you have opportunities to do something peaceful, calming and relaxing, don't miss out, enjoy the break from the busy working days.

Make sure you stay safe too......!

If you know that alcohol affects your well being and behaviour, stay away from it! it's not worth the risk for yourself and/or others around you. Try to enjoy your break without too much alcohol. The weather is magnificent so far, so enjoy the sun shine.

xx

Another Beautiful Day..!

2009-04-08T04:56:00.000-07:00

We had another beautiful weather in Adelaide today. I went for a walk in the sun with my friend at lunch time and it was great.

Whenever you have a chance to go for a walk, make sure you do it, it's a very healthy activity, you can think and talk effectively while you walk in the fresh air. Walking is one of the cheapest and best exercise you can find, just make sure you don't block your hearing with loud music if you walk near traffic, it's dangerous if you can't hear the traffic.

I live near the beach and feel blessed to be able to walk on the beach when I can, usually in the afternoon or evening after work, as I don't have time to go in the morning. I walk in the morning on the weekend with my husband and we both love spending quality time this way. We can talk pleasantly and get healthy exercise.

We both love working and feel blessed to have jobs, so don't complain about having to be at work everyday. It's just part of our life and we've had a great life so far. We've been able to buy a family home, sending our children for good education and go on holidays every year, sometimes two or three times a year, so having to go to work is not a problem for us. We love our lives and we wouldn't do it any other way.

We also love our children and we would do anything for them.

Good night for now.
xx

Staying Positive and Motivated

2009-04-07T06:21:00.000-07:00

Following the daily news is a good thing, so we know what's going on around us, nationally and globally. Just be careful what you take in from the news. Especially when you keep hearing too many bad news day in day out. That's dangerous for your own well being.

While it is a good idea to know what's happening and it is not a bad thing to feel empathetic and sympathetic towards others, try not to treat those bad news as if they are part of your life. If you want to make a difference, do something constructive such as giving to charity, helping voluntarily or simply cheer people up.

No good being negative, feeling miserable and dragging yourself or others around you down. Life is too short and it is not a dress rehearsal. Be positive and do good things for yourself and others around you.

First of all smile, enjoy the sun shine and say something nice to someone every day.

Things happen, life is unpredictable and illnesses are not prejudice. While we have to make every effort to maintain our health and well being, we might still be unlucky sometimes, running into something negatively unexpected.

The right attitude, goes a long way, so stay positive and motivated. You will achieve your dreams.

Health and Resilience

2009-04-03T08:44:00.000-07:00

Yes, that's right..! I can't believe that it's been over two weeks since I last wrote and unfortunately my lingering headache is still lingering on and off. It's so... odd. It felt as if I had some kind of virus but I started feeling much better since yesterday.

Despite a little discomfort due to illness, I continued to attend work and I managed to still get a lot done. I was glad about that and it made me feel good knowing that I have the strength to maintain my resilience and my interest to do what I enjoy doing.

I have been spending a lot of quality time with my husband and my daughter and it's been great.

I had a lot of time reflecting on my life and the life of others that happen to encounter through various forums such as work, social interaction, news, movies and articles I read.

This week's highlight has been the discovery of my ability to deal with difficult people and difficult situations.

Since I started working as a Team Manager to manage 15-16 staff members in a complex workplace and client base over the past 2.5 years, I feel that I have become quite professional and resilient when dealing with difficult people and difficult situations.

The key to develop resilience in this area is to be in a position of having to deal with them, to take action when difficult situations arise and to continue experiencing the process no matter how tiring and/or frustrating some of them may be.

It is now 2:30 AM and I am feeling really tired. So... good night, sleep tight.

Smile anyway - Thursday, 19th of March 2009

2009-03-19T06:03:00.000-07:00

Hello Everyone,

It is very unusual that I am feeling unwell. I have had aches and pains through out my body particularly my weak area at the back of my neck. I've also had a few headaches including migraines lately, I don't know why.

Despite the pains and aches, I still smile and keep doing what I have to do, particularly going to work and continue to work effectively. I think my employer is very lucky in that respect. I've always had a good work ethic and I am usually resilient.

I totally believe that my positive thinking contributes a lot towards my happiness and my resilience. I am sad for those who think and speak negatively all the time. They are very tiring to listen to and I don't think they realise how much they drag others down.

Today, I experienced a moment at work when I had to remind someone to stop talking in a negative language but this person was very defensive and didn't listen to me at all. She does not realise that her negative language lets people down.

So... I have a job to do to lift their spirit and teach people to think and speak positively at all times. They need to learn and realise the healthy impact when they speak positively.

Silver Wedding Anniversary

2009-03-14T07:30:00.000-07:00

Today is the 14th of March. On the 10th of March 25 years ago, my husband and I got married in a Marriage Registry Office in Bandung, West Java, Indonesia. As we had different nationalities, my husband being English and I was Indonesian, the registry marriage was required before we had our Traditional Big Fat Sundanese Wedding Ceremony. A week later on the 18th of March, we declared our marriage in front of our huge extended families from both my mum and dad's sides, as well as the people of the village where my dad was born and where we grew up. The traditional wedding ceremony and a reception with around 800 guests was very eventful and it was something that I will always remember.

Today, we live close to my husband's family in a small city in Australia. There are only 14 of us in our family. For our Silver Wedding Anniversary, I could have had a big party inviting up to 100 friends but I decided to only have a small family gathering at home with delicious Indonesian home cooking. My lovely daughter made beautiful Thai basil chicken and mustard chicken, I made warm beef and rice noodle salad, yellow festive rice, potato and corn beef cakes, and my sister made rendang. We had absolutely beautiful dinner. My sister and her husband bought us a beautiful cake as well and I made black rice pudding with coconut sauce for desert.

One specific thought and decision I had today was not to listen to anyone making any negative remark or comment about anything. I have seriously decided not to entertain complainers.

Love you all,
xx

Being Busy Is Healthy

2009-03-06T04:16:00.000-08:00

Hi ...,

I've been very busy with other activities in my life at the moment, that's why it's been a while since my last update.

I've been busy communicating and spending quality time with my family as well as being busy at work contributing towards various activities to assist those who are experiencing such horrendous disasters with the floods up north and bush fires in Victoria.

While we are all busy doing what we can to assist and to contribute towards those experiencing sad disasters, we should always make sure that our own and family health is well taken care of, so we can continue helping those in need.

So... take care and enjoy the weekend.

Love always,
xx

Three a day to keep your trouble away

2009-02-11T05:24:00.000-08:00

Think of three positive things each day that make you feel good and happy.

One positive thing each day is probably enough but do it everyday.

Don't forget * It's worth it * and You deserve to feel happy and safe everyday.

Three positive things for me today were:

Walking in the sun shine with my loving husband and daughter;
Eating beautiful Korean meal for lunch with my loving husband and my daughter;
Spending quality time with my sister, her loving husband and sons.

"ME" Time is a Creative Time.

2009-02-11T05:17:00.000-08:00

By the way, lately I've been reading and learning a lot about how to be constantly dynamic and motivated.

So.. if you ever feel flat as if nothing is moving forward, pick one thing that you really love doing and make efforts to spare a bit of time each day to do just that, no matter how busy you are with work, family and other commitments.

You all deserve to have a "ME" time when you don't do any work related activity. Even if you think you are not productive enough at first, this is probably the most productive time when you will be really creative with new ideas and thoughts.

Start today and then do it everyday if you can.
Enjoy..!

It's February already..!

2009-02-11T05:05:00.001-08:00

Hi All,

Sorry that I haven't written here for about a month. I can't believe it's been that long since I last wrote. I've been busy with work and family commitments as well as communicating with friends and family on facebook. I've also been busy studying, writing other materials and researching my future study that I am excited about.

So.... how about you? been busy too? Keeping busy is a good thing, so you don't have time or space to think about negative things, although, lately... there have been many sad disasters such as bushfires and floods in Australia as well as other disasters in other parts of the world including the global economic crash and extreme climate change.

While billions of people including us are still lucky carrying on doing what we do in our lives, there are also millions of unfortunate people out there. So.. let's pray for them.

Stay strong, healthy and safe.

Love you all,
T

The Flinders Ranges

2009-01-04T04:32:00.000-08:00

My husband and I have just returned from our 2 day camping trip at the Wilpena Pound, Flinders Ranges, South Australia.

The weather was gorgeous and the views of the ranges were spectacular.

Sorry that I couldn't take any photo this time, as believe it or not, we left the camera home and when I tried to use my phone to take photos with, the phone was out of battery. So I decided to buy a small book of photos by Pete Dobre.

They are beautiful photos. I will scan a few and share them with you next time, as I am really tired right now. I have to go to sleep, as I will be going to work tomorrow.

Ciao for now,
xx

More Sunsets on the 3rd & 4th Days of 2009

2009-01-04T04:25:00.000-08:00

Magical sunsets on Christmas Day 2008

2009-01-04T04:10:00.000-08:00

Christmas is a special day for most people in Australia and it is a very special day for my parents in-law.

I highly respect Christmas day and the people who celebrate Christmas religiously. I enjoy my yearly visit to my parents in-law's home who always prepare a beautiful English tradition Christmas roast lunch for all the family. It's always so... beautiful and everyone is very happy on the day enjoying each other's company and the delicious food.

That evening, my husband and I decided to go for a walk to the beach near our home and I took several photos of the most magical sunsets.

There they are, enjoy...!!!

Holiday in the Gold Coast

2009-01-04T03:51:00.000-08:00

Hi All,

How have you all been? I hope this news find you well and happy.

I was away in the first week of Dec 08 for a holiday with a friend in the Gold Coast. It was a beautiful holiday. We stayed on the 11th floor of Voyager Resort at Broadbeach, Gold Coast.

During the holiday, we did a lot of walking, talking and reflecting on our experiences. We learned a lot from each other and I have been able to write about them in my diary as well as my notes for my stories when I am ready to write them properly.

My friend took a small set of water color, paper and brushes to let me practice with my painting. I am not good at it, I just wish I could paint, so I have a go every now and then. I painted a couple of postcard size sea views, pretty ordinary painting but I kept them anyway.

I took a few photos and here there are.

Life is the most precious thing

2008-12-03T04:36:00.000-08:00

Yes, I am so grateful to be alive, healthy and safe. Although I am a little sad today, as I just received bad news from my home country about my 46 year old cousin who just passed away on Sunday. He was so... young leaving a young beautiful wife with 4 young children.

Where they live don't have Government welfare, so the young widow will have to find ways to feed her young children, clothing them and sending them to school. This is where I and the rest of their relatives, whether we are close relatives or not come in to help as much as we can.

That's why I am so... grateful to be healthy and able to work, earning money and helping others, not all of us are lucky enough with jobs, homes, cars and family, let alone having other luxuries like holidays and being able to live in peace in a safe environment.

I hear people complaining too much about small set-backs. I think we ought to put things in perspective and show some gratitude how lucky we are, while of course continue to strive to work harder and help others more.

Please don't complain about insignificant things that don't matter that much. Spare your energy to be more creative and become a better person instead.

Good Luck and have a dynamic day each day from here on.

Love you...........
x

Life is about making choices

2008-12-01T04:42:00.000-08:00

For me..., the right choice is always making the positive choice.
There is always two sides to every story or every scenario and there is always a gloomy side and a bright side. I've trained my subconscious mind to take the bright side of every situation while of course wise enough to be prepared for the unexpected, get up again and keep moving forward.

Never give up and never allow negative influence to drag you down. Beat them every time and hang on to your principle to remain resilient and strong. The stronger you are the happier you become and the kinder you will be towards others.

Having the courage to change the things you can change and accepting the things you cannot change are the way I've learned to become, and that's a good... feeling, giving myself more freedom to cherish and appreciate what I have.

Look outside and enjoy the sun shine, the rain, the wind or the snow. They are all valuable as long as we don't get too much of any of them all at once.

Let's be thankful and show gratitude for what we have and enjoy every minute of our precious lives. Life is too short, so don't waste time complaining, just enjoy and move on.

Keep smiling :) :) :)

This beautiful weekend is nearly over.....

2008-11-30T04:20:00.000-08:00

Hi again,

How are you today? did you all have a nice weekend? I did, the weather was beautiful and I went shopping for a few things yesterday to send to my darling daughter who currently lives in Japan. I also sent a gift to my younger darling daughter who just had her 19th birthday yesterday and currently lives in another state. She celebrated her birthday with her flat mates and friends from uni. I believed she enjoyed her special day, I spoke to her yesterday on her birthday and she sounded really happy. I haven't spoken to her today.

My husband and I went out all day yesterday and did a few jobs on slow motion around the house today. We had a nice home cooked breakfast this morning and a home cooked dinner with a glass of wine this evening while listening to my favourite Sundanese music looking at a beautiful sea view through our dining/lounge room window. We also had a nice walk to the beach after dinner. We did another little job in the garden and then sat down watching television with a cup of tea and a piece of cake in our quiet lounge room.

I was so... happy today, as I just worked out how to get the sound from our television through my brand new home cinema speaker system finally, after a couple of stressful days trying to get it working.

Anyway, I'd better go, it's nearly bed time now and ready for another week at work. Thank God I've got a job to go to and the income has definitely been very useful. Life would have been so much worse without a job and regular income. My job keeps me busy and motivated and the income from it has given me so... much enjoyment in life. I hope you too have a job and enjoying the income you are making.

Chao for now,

Ah... Life has been busy but happy for me, how about you?

2008-11-27T03:45:00.000-08:00

Yes, it was my big birthday on Tuesday and I had a brilliant day. The weather was fantastic and I spent quality time with my hubby, family and friends. It was a quiet day, which I love. I am not into big parties anymore these days. I prefer a quiet relaxing day particularly spending it with love ones. I really value quality times with family or simply enjoy my own company with a good book and a cup of refreshing herbal tea on a beautiful sunny day, although I love rainy day as well these days, as we don't get enough of them.

No matter what you do, having positive approach towards life is always the best way.

Enjoy and cherish your life and your family.
xx

O... What A Day...! I love... LIFE...!

2008-11-24T03:35:00.000-08:00

Saturday was my hubby's birthday and we had family over for coffee and cake. We then had lunch at home afterwards. That night we went to my hubby's work Christmas dinner in the function room of the Adelaide Museum. It was pretty good but nothing special, no complaint though, after all it was free for us.

It's Monday today but couldn't get any better day at work. Why? Because we had a team meeting and I provided morning tea for the team for my pre-birthday celebration that is due tomorrow. At the same time, my boss came over to present my 20 years service award. I provided too much food, so the rest of the office got some free morning tea as well. It's nice to be able to put a smile on people's faces every now and then. As everyone asked what the food was for, words went around about my birthday, so they all knew about it, but I don't mind though.

Well, I felt special today, as I received beautiful cards, presents and birthday wishes from family and friends and I am going out for breakfast with my hubby, his parents and my sister tomorrow morning. The rest of my family members are either away or at work. My two beautiful daughters are also away. One lives overseas and the other lives interstate. It's fine though, we communicate a lot on the phone or skype. We are happy to know that we are all healthy, happy and free to do whatever we choose to do, so being apart is not a problem for us, as long as we know that we are all healthy and happy to enjoy and cherish life and freedom.

I am taking leave from work for my birthday tomorrow and I am just going to enjoy the day, relaxing with family and on my own afterwards. Life is too beautiful, so I will just enjoy it.

I hope you will enjoy your day too. SMILE ALWAYS :)

Today was another nice day.

2008-11-20T04:47:00.000-08:00

The weather was beautiful in SA today. I had a little drive at lunch time and had a healthy tuna and salad sub, yum...!

Work was not bad today either and I managed to leave earlier than usual. I then went with my husband to Snowy Camping Shop near town to do a bit of shopping to give my hubby company to pick something that he wants for his birthday on 22 Nov. Snowy had really good specials today and made us feel good to buy quality gear at better price. We got titanium cooking set and a couple of other camping gear.

I then went to dinner with work friends but my hubby was happier to test his new present at home.

By for now,
T

Halls Gap, Vic, Australia.

2008-11-20T04:44:00.000-08:00

The Great Ocean Road, Australia.

2008-11-20T04:40:00.000-08:00

How are you today? Happy?

2008-11-19T04:10:00.000-08:00

I have been feeling tired lately, mainly due to my hayfever and lack of sleep. My mind has been extremelly active wanting to do so... much but I only have very limited time to do them in, that's why I am still awake right now but I will have to go to bed very soon, as I have to go to work tomorrow.

Despite my tiredness though I still enjoyed my life in the past few days. My highlight for today was having lunch with my friends and talking to my daughter from Japan on the skype. Thanks to Skype for allowing us to communicate with my love ones who live away. It's the best technology ever, especially when our videos on our computers work well, so we can see each other's faces as we are talking. We miss each other a lot, so we use Skype a lot.

Good night for now.

Just a couple of photos that may cheer you up

2008-11-19T03:58:00.000-08:00

Ooops.. time flies. Still happy?

2008-11-17T04:50:00.000-08:00

Hi again,

I've had so much fun since I last wrote, I almost forgot to post what I've been doing.

Well..., the week at work was busy as always and but pleasant than most other weeks and we had a very pleasant weekend.

My husband and I went out for some Mexican meal on Tuesday night and some Asian meal on Friday night and they were beautiful. The African coffee after dinner was great tool.

My husband had to work an extra shift on Saturday and I had a lot of gardening done. It was very relaxing and I really enjoyed it.

On Sunday, we both did a bit more gardening and went for a nice drive in the afternoon, having a walk and a little picnic at the forrest which is only 30 min away from our home. It was fantastic, another relaxing afternoon.

That evening, we had a lovely visit from our good friends and had a very enjoyable chat. I love listening to my friend's travel experiences.

Believe it or not, I had an extra day off from work today, as I had worked such long hours in the past 4 weeks, so I had too many hours up that I had to take. I had a fantastic day, yet again.

I was a very productive day on my day which usually makes me feel good. I did some grocery shopping in the morning, went to the dentist to get my teeth cleaned which is my six monthly routine, I went shopping for myself and did a few tasks such as sending letters at the post office. On the way home, I drove a long the esplanade, the sea was extremely blue and calm, such a magic thing to watch, so I stopped and parked on the side of the street just to watch that blue calm sea for a few moments before I had home. As I couldn't resist it, so I got out and walked on the beach for about 10 minutes to enjoy that cool breeze and the cool sand on your feel. It was one of the most beautiful spring day and I loved it.

When I got home, I had a quiet lunch and a cup a tea by myself while reading my favourite magazine in my quiet garden, and then did a bit more gardening as it was so nice outside.

When I went back inside for another cup of herbal tea, I decided to open my open my email. To my surprise I received a wonderful news from my close friend informing me that she is going to have her first book published by a reputable publisher who will pay for all the cost. It was such a great news to hear. The book as a series of poem titled "Life A Gift", so look out for it next year.

Tonight, I have spent a bit of money booking my trip to go overseas next year and just purchased a home theatre system as a xmas box for the family. O.. well... you've got to enjoy your money as long as you are being sensible in spending it.

So..., my week has been hectic but pleasant. I hope yours was even better.

xx

The Secret...???

2008-11-07T03:02:00.000-08:00

The Law of Attraction is The Science of Getting RICH
Believe it or not this principle of the Law of Attraction has changed the lives of so... many people including mine. I never realised how wonderful it is to live a life filled with true health and happiness.
I think that if everyone learns this phenomenal principle, we'll have a much better world full of positive and happy people.
I have been inspired to share this principle with others for many years since I first read the books titled "The Magic of Thinking Big", "Think and Grow Rich" and "You Were Born Rich"
And then the movie "The Secret" was published, which shook the world.
Below is a short article about where this principle is originated
Enjoy...!
What Happens When 3 Extraordinary Teachers from "the Secret" Come Together to Teach the Science of Getting Rich?
by Tenny Charlesworth
The Science of Getting Rich is a timeless classic written in 1910 by Wallace D. Wattles. It is a bold title for a book and suggests that getting rich is a predictable outcome if one can master the principles outlined in the book. Here is how Wallace D. Wattles puts it in his own words, "The ownership of money and property comes as a result of doing things in a certain way. Those who do things in this certain way, whether on purpose or accidentally, get rich. Those who do not do things in this certain way, no matter how hard they work or how able they are, remain poor. It is a natural law that like causes always produce like effects. Therefore, any man or woman who learns to do things in this certain way will infallibly get rich."
Certainly, this book is well referenced by many of the great teachers today and it is the same book that inspired Rhonda Byrne to produce that runaway success "the Secret". Here is what Rhonda Byrne said on her introductory note to the book, "I can honestly say that, since that first night when a tattered printed manuscript found its way to me (thanks to one of my daughters), my life has never been the same. Once you read it for yourself, you will understand why". Rhonda went on to produce the movie "the Secret" and the best-selling book of the same title which has sold millions of copies worldwide.
However, learning how to do things in that "certain way" as described by Wallace D. Wattles may be more challenging for some as the book was written nearly 100 years ago. Some of the language is a little dated and much of its wisdom lost from a modern day perspective.Fortunately, a new training seminar for the Science of Getting Rich has brought the wisdom of this timeless classic back to life for modern readers. Called "the Science of Getting Rich", this program is the most comprehensive training system for mastering Wallace D. Wattles wealth creation philosophies and principles since its creation. It comprises written, audio and live seminar formats for learning, applying and mastering the Science of Getting Rich
A unique "twist" to the program is the fact that it has an in-built vehicle for creating substantial financial wealth through its affiliate program. This is truly a unique wealth eduction and wealth building program designed to empower any individual with the resources to get rich. It is a program whose time has come. The program would not be possible without the original text from Wallace D. Wattles, the skills of leading teachers of our time, the phenomenal success of "the Secret" and the Internet as a learning and distribution tool.
Click here to learn more about the Secret Science of Getting Rich and the details of the program.

Ah... I love Fridays........

2008-11-07T02:59:00.000-08:00

It's been a long week at work for me, I and the rest of my team have had a very busy week and I was looking forward to a nice break this weekend, so I felt really good when I left work this afternoon.

I spoke to my daughter who lives in Sydney today and she was looking forward to her music gig at the Basement tonight. She is very happy with her life right now.

My husband spoke to our other daughter who lives in Japan and very happy over there too.As parents, it's the best thing to hear that your children are happy. I wish them the best.

As for us (my husband and I), even though we both work full time, we are happy with our situation as well. We are happy the fact that we both have full time jobs and able to live reasonably well. We can't ask for more.

I went shopping today and I treated myself with a pair of gold earings that I really like, it's a present from myself for my 50th birthday that's coming soon.

:)

Another beautiful day........

2008-11-06T03:10:00.000-08:00

Hi,

Today was another beautiful day for me, the weather was gorgeous, work was also pretty good as I had a reasonably productive day with less interruptions, unlike most other days. I had a relaxing walk at lunch time and bought a few christmas presents.

My best highlight tonight was listening to Barack Obama's full Presidential Victory Speech in Chicago. As I missed listening to it on the day of the election, I listened to it on YouTube tonight. Thanks to "YouTube". It's a brilliant speech and it made me cry of amazement and joy, especially when he spoke of a 106 year old lady, Anne Nixon Cooper who was able to vote this time. I also loved the part when he included every race, when he said that we all have hope and can do, and when he said that he will listen and will be the president for everyone including those that did not vote for him.

In my opinion, Barack Obama is an amazing man, who is extremely intelligent, experienced and charismatic. America is very lucky to have him as their president.

Why don't you listen to his speech and pick up a few of his messages, and then apply them in your life. They are all very positive, encouraging and inspirational. You can't go wrong with them.

After I listened to Obama's speech, I listened and sang along to a few classic Sundanese (West Javanese) Pop songs that I used to sing semi professionally 30 years ago. I actually am still able to sing them well and enjoy singing them. I bet you were thinking that you were lucky not to be here hearing me singing. Yes, you are lucky. However, my daughters think they sound good but you won't understand the lirics at all, even a lot of Indonesian don't understand them, only people from West Java would. The melody is relaxing and pleasant though, to me anyway.

Stay Safe,
xx

No matter what happens, stay in control

2008-11-01T05:51:00.000-07:00

How are you today? I hope you had a dynamic day.
It's Saturday night here in South OZ. It's quite late actually and I am feeling very tired, but my body just doesn't like bed before midnight. So, I am updating this blog before I go to bed.

It's been a busy, tiring week at work for me, trying to keep everyone around me staying positive. I just hope that whatever I did, worked. I don't feel as confident sometimes, especially when I was feeling tired and slightly stress myself.

I used to feel disappointed with myself when it happened that way in the past but not anymore. I just accept the fact that I am a human being myself, so feeling tired and making mistakes are OK and just have to move forward. So, I am.

Today I had a lunch invitation from a friend who live close by, we all took traditional Sundanese (West Javanese) food to share accompanied with Sundanese Music and talking Sundanese with friends in a lovely spring afternoon. We enjoyed it so... much, we ended-up over-staying there but we made sure we left before dinner time.

When I got home, I couldn't help myself listening to even more Sundanese music, I must have missed my own tradition and culture. As I also looked at some old photos, I got reminded about old times when I used to dance, sing and act when I was young. I used to love performing but didn't get to do enough to become a professional artist. Never mind..., I am happy with what I have been doing so far. I've studied and worked hard in the field of workplace and people management. I got married almost 25 years ago and brought up two beautiful and talented daughters who have become performing artists now. My eldest is an actor, dancer & model and my youngest is a musician. I am so.... happy for them and wish them the best.

Anyway, it was really good looking at my old time photos. I love doing that, especially looking at photos of the children when they were young too.

So..., no matter how stressful your week at work can be sometimes, try not to let it worry you and don't think about it once it's gone, as nothing can be done, just keep going forward doing what you have to do and what you want to do, while staying positive and staying in control.

Good luck and have a fantastic week.
xx

Be happy despite of what happens around you

2008-10-28T05:22:00.000-07:00

Happiness is within..... No matter what's happening around you, never allow any external influence to affect the way you feel inside.

Listen to what you can hear, watch what you can see, pause and respond to them constructively. Never allow them to drag you down, it's not worth it. Stay strong, stand tall and smile with confidence. Most of the time they are not that important.

The reason why I am saying this because it took me along time and a lot of effort to actually be able to preserve my inner happiness from those negative external influences, which can be constantly coming at you unfortunately.

Once you achieve that inner happiness within your body and your mind, no one can touch you, you'll just be sailing along with an ability to continue with whatever you have to do in life. In the end, what you say will resonate through others and you will end up being the one who spread the positive energy rather getting dragged down by tho negative energy coming at you.

When I was younger, I used to react too soon over negative things and allowed them to affect the way I felt about myself. So, I feel successful by being able to defeat negativity.

By for now,

Three things that made me feel happy today.

2008-10-26T06:14:00.000-07:00

First of all, the weather was almost perfect, a beautiful 30*C, I love.... warm weather.
Secondly, I got to spend a valuable time with family all day, can't get any better than that.
Thirdly, I have been well, happy and healthy today, and I really enjoyed my food that I had today. I had egg and bacon with brown rice for brunch and noodle soup with vegies for dinner.

I can guarantee that we can always find 3 things that I really like or enjoy each day. Some day may even find a lot more than 3. Try it, it's a really good exercise that makes you smile.

If you come across negative people who try to tell you negative things rather than positive things, just listen a little and empathise with them but quickly change the subject or let them know that you are in a hurry to get to your next job or whatever it is that you need to do next. "Empathise and help if possible but do not let them drag you down and do not join in"

Well, I'd love to write more tonight but it's way past my bed time, so I'd better go to bed, as I am going to work tomorrow.

By for now,

Things that inspired me to write this blog

2008-10-23T04:28:00.000-07:00

Hi Happy Readers,

I've got a little story that may interest you.

Over the years I've met so many people from different walks of life. Despite the challenges of life that we all encounter from time to time, I've found life extremely fascinating, invigorating and beautiful. However, I still see so... many unhappy people around, which is difficult to comprehend, especially when these people appear to be normal, healthy and relatively capable people with reasonable jobs, family and financial position.

On the contrary, many of those who are clearly, genuinely and seriously ill or disadvantaged seem to be more grateful for their life. It shows you that those normal people take their normality, good health and fortune for granted and forget to show gratitude, which I find sad really.

O... well, I guess that's the reason why blogs like this are handy, so we can all remind ourselves how we can be more grateful for our lives and everything in it.

I am writing this blog to share my happy experiences with my hope that they help others to become happier and to appreciate this precious life more. I would also like to learn from other bloggers and blog readers who have positive thoughts and don't mind sharing with me.

So... first of all, I hope you've had a happy and dynamic day. I think of 3 things that make me feel happy everyday and I hang on to those thoughts and feelings for as long as I can or until the next day when I find other 3 positive things.

I personally had a fantastic day today. I spent a lot of time with my good friends and we talked a lot about healthy eating and positive thinking.

I had work lunch with 12 work mates and then went to dinner after work with another group of friends from my previous job. I don't usually eat out very often, simply to avoid eating too much fattening food and to save money for other priorities like traveling for example. Today was just a special day for one of my colleague's farewell get together and catching up with friends before the festive season.

Both events were fantastic, particularly at dinner time. As the restaurant was by the sea, while eating and chatting, we were looking out the window facing the calm blue sea water watching a couple of seals and a dolphin swimming across our view. It was such a beautiful moment and I will remember that moment for a long time.

Christmas is coming soon and you may have plans to eat out with your work friends and family members too. If so, why don't you choose a restaurant with a beautiful view and delicious food. If eating out is not your thing and you feel a bit bored, why don't you find some activities that will make you smile, maybe walking on the beach, reading your favourite book or whatever that tickles your fancy. Go ahead and enjoy it. Don't forget to share your experience with me though..he..he.. By... for now.

TSSC Self-Care Online

2008-07-02T05:13:00.000-07:00

Hello Readers and Sharers,

Let's share ideas about well being and how we can stay healthy and happy.

In my opinion, life doesn't mean much unless you are absolutely healthy and happy.

There are ways to prevent illnesses and unhappiness, although we have to recognise, respect and empathized the fact that they are people who become unwell even if they try to prevent it.

While gaining happiness is within our control, becoming ill may not always be in our control. However, let's learn why it is important to do whatever we can to avoid being ill and unhappy.

I am inspired to write this blog to share with you because I feel so... blessed being extremelly healthy and happy at this time of my life, which has made me feel very positive about everything I encounter each day.

First of all, I want to say that the most important thing you need to do is to "think positive", always see the bright side of everything without forgetting that if things don't turn out in your favour, let go, move on and learn from the experience. If you keep doing this, you will always be happy and if you are happy you are likely to keep away from getting sick.

Let's leave it at that for now,
Kind Regards, Tenny.

The Law of Attraction is The Science of Getting RICH

2008-06-28T08:47:00.000-07:00

Believe it or not this principle of the Law of Attraction has changed the lives of so... many people including mine. I never realised how wonderful it is to live a life filled with true health and happiness.

I think that if everyone learns this phenomenal principle, we'll have a much better world full of positive and happy people.

I have been inspired to share this principle with others for many years since I first read the books titled "The Magic of Thinking Big", "Think and Grow Rich" and "You Were Born Rich"

And then the movie "The Secret" was published, which shook the world.

Below is a short article about where this principle is originated

Enjoy...!

What Happens When 3 Extraordinary Teachers from "the Secret" Come Together to Teach the Science of Getting Rich?

by Tenny Charlesworth

The Science of Getting Rich is a timeless classic written in 1910 by Wallace D. Wattles. It is a bold title for a book and suggests that getting rich is a predictable outcome if one can master the principles outlined in the book. Here is how Wallace D. Wattles puts it in his own words, "The ownership of money and property comes as a result of doing things in a certain way. Those who do things in this certain way, whether on purpose or accidentally, get rich. Those who do not do things in this certain way, no matter how hard they work or how able they are, remain poor. It is a natural law that like causes always produce like effects. Therefore, any man or woman who learns to do things in this certain way will infallibly get rich."

Certainly, this book is well referenced by many of the great teachers today and it is the same book that inspired Rhonda Byrne to produce that runaway success "the Secret". Here is what Rhonda Byrne said on her introductory note to the book, "I can honestly say that, since that first night when a tattered printed manuscript found its way to me (thanks to one of my daughters), my life has never been the same. Once you read it for yourself, you will understand why". Rhonda went on to produce the movie "the Secret" and the best-selling book of the same title which has sold millions of copies worldwide.

However, learning how to do things in that "certain way" as described by Wallace D. Wattles may be more challenging for some as the book was written nearly 100 years ago. Some of the language is a little dated and much of its wisdom lost from a modern day perspective.
Fortunately, a new training seminar for the Science of Getting Rich has brought the wisdom of this timeless classic back to life for modern readers. Called "the Science of Getting Rich", this program is the most comprehensive training system for mastering Wallace D. Wattles wealth creation philosophies and principles since its creation. It comprises written, audio and live seminar formats for learning, applying and mastering the Science of Getting Rich

A unique "twist" to the program is the fact that it has an in-built vehicle for creating substantial financial wealth through its affiliate program. This is truly a unique wealth eduction and wealth building program designed to empower any individual with the resources to get rich. It is a program whose time has come. The program would not be possible without the original text from Wallace D. Wattles, the skills of leading teachers of our time, the phenomenal success of "the Secret" and the Internet as a learning and distribution tool.

Click here to learn more about the Secret Science of Getting Rich and the details of the program.

About Tenny Continued

2008-06-28T01:48:00.000-07:00

Tenny loves learning from everything she encounters in her life journey and often occupies herself with many goals and agendas at once. Tenny has done quite a lot in her life time so far.

Tenny is currently working full time as a Team Manager to 16 diverse staff members. In her spare time, she writes and develops her future plans.

Her most important hobbies are studying, reading and writing personal development articles.

Tenny also loves walking, cooking, gardening, holidaying and relaxing with family and friends over a light lunch and a glass of sauvignon blanc. Most of all, she enjoys reminding others to remain happy, healthy, motivated and optimistic.

Tenny used to do a lot of sewing, decorating and silk painting as her hobbies. However, they have to be put on hold for a while.

Tenny's articles are based on her personal life experience, observation and education. Therefore they are exclusive to her, just like yours would be exclusive to you, so why don't we all share and enjoy each others' exclusive experiences.

Best Wishes,